Why is Parenting so Hard | 25 Reasons No One Tells You Before

Parenting is the terrifying climax in marriage, especially when it’s your first time with your baby and you don’t know how to trickle out with a newborn baby.  

Now you can take a relaxing breath because after going through this blog post, you will get solutions to every general issue.

Babies can’t talk and express what they want from you when they want to eat, play and sleep; thus, they don’t get what they want, so they start crying; that is the main reason making parenting tough.

We will help you out! Here are all the general issues during parenting and their solutions.

Why is Parenting so Hard

Here are some reasons no one tells you before;

• All the responsibility is on you.
• You are constantly judged for your parenting choices.
• The constant struggle to be better at your job.
• Kids have no idea how hard you’re actually working for them.
• Lack of adequate time
• Being constantly on-guard
• Lack of support from other adults
• Boredom and constant interruption
• Exhaustion from the physical toll of parenting
• Culture Shock: raising kids is very different from being an adult yourself
• Low self-esteem after giving up parts of yourself to be a parent.
• The weight of unrealistic expectations placed on parents by society.
• It’s a constant cycle of cleaning up their messes.
• You’re only as happy as your unhappiest kid.
• The only thing you know for sure is that you don’t know anything for sure.
• Your income relies solely on the whims of small humans.
• There is no such thing as downtime.
• You’re constantly comparing yourself to other parents.
• The most basic tasks require Herculean effort.
• There’s not enough time in the day to do everything that needs to be done.
• Everyone seems to have an opinion about how you should parent.
• Bedtime feels more like a prison sentence than a happy time with your kid(s).
• Even though they’re little, your kids are still capable of making you feel extremely shitty about yourself
• Your house has become a mess again, and you have no idea how to clean it up.
• Nobody stops growing at exactly the same rate — and that includes your kids.

Let’s break down them in detail;

All the responsibility is on you. 

When someone is blessed with a child, their responsibility begins 24/7. New parents get afraid of taking this responsibility, but as a parent, they have to make up their minds that they are the only guardian of their kids, and their kid is only up to them. Here are some bullets of general responsibility that they should perform with 100% sincerity:

• protect your child from any harm.
• fulfill their all-basic rights and needs.
• support them financially.
• It would help if you gave them safety, supervision, and control.
• assist them with medical care.
• provide education.

You are constantly judged for your parenting choices.

Parenting can be hard when your relatives and all around you start judging your education and pointing out your character as a careless parent.

In that cheap case, you have to ignore them, don’t reply, and pretend that their words are not hurting you. Because they intend to hurt you, show them they fail to do it.

The constant struggle to be better at your job

Parenting can be hard because you have to struggle constantly every minute. But it would help if you did not give up. Once you step back from your responsibility, you will suffer from irresponsibility.

You can bust yourself by:

• Taking Action: Take Time to Plan.
• Take a Break: Get Out of the Office.
• Take out with a Colleague.
• Taking a Break (proper sleep)

Kids have no idea how hard you’re working for them.

Parenting gets hard with the single selfish thought I am sacrificing, but my kid didn’t realize it. Let me correct you. Whatever you are doing and sacrificing is your responsibility, and I guarantee that your kid will pay you back with a total interest rate.  

You will not be trapped in these selfish thoughts by performing your duty with sincerity and loyalty.

Lack of adequate time

Most parents excuse for lack of time. Let me sort out this issue 

Lack Of Time = Lack of Planning

This equation expresses that a lack of time equals a lack of planning. Thus, once you set a schedule and plan for your hours, you will never be worried about your time.

Being constantly on-guard

Parenting becomes hard 24/7 without a break with your kid as an assistant or guard.

But once you start being loyal to your responsibility and think that there is no one without you and you are the only guardian, you will happily guard them.

What are moms for? God blessed them with a kid who should care for them and make them able to speak and stand by their feet. 

Lack of support from other adults

Parenting gets hard when there is no one to teach and advise you, like any family member, cousin, friend, or colleague. But you can’t step back from your responsibility. You are mature enough and now a parent, so you have to sort out all issues even without assistance.

You can type any problem on google and get a solution within a few seconds. You can go through articles that will share solution and their experiencing. 

Boredom and constant interruption

Parenting gets hard due to boredom (mental illness) and constant interruption (disturbance).

Just remember this disturbance will not last forever. This will turn into memories. This will give you the potential to stay strong. 

Instead, you must take a long deep breath and calm yourself because you can’t scream out at your kid. 

Exhaustion from the physical toll of parenting

Parenting becomes hard when they start noticing their physical and mental changes.

But as a parent, they have to sacrifice and not lose strength for physical change, as they change once they can change again and make their body back to their figure. It’s not that much stressing-out thing.

Culture Shock: raising kids is very different from being an adult yourself

Culture shock is different for all parents according to their perspectives, especially when you are not mature enough.

In that case, you can take support from your family member, siblings, friends, and colleagues who have experience.

Low self-esteem after giving up parts of yourself to be a parent

Parenting gets hard because once you be a parent, your priorities change.

Now you will not think about yourself. You will always think about your baby’s comfort, but with time you will love to keep your kid at the top of your priorities list. And that’s what all moms do.

The weight of unrealistic expectations placed on parents by society

Parenting can be hard when you feel a burden on your shoulder, and even your society is giving you a score.

Once you start doing your responsibility, will love, and true intention, you will never make mistakes, and people will not get points to make you down.

It’s a constant cycle of cleaning up their messes.

Yes, I agree parenting gets hard when you have to pamper and clean your baby’s mess several times a day.

But trust me. You will get trained and used to it; then, you will change your baby pamper publicly in a minute without irritation and hesitation. 

You’re only as happy as your unhappiest kid.

Parenting can be hard when you don’t know how to fix your baby’s mood and your baby has mood swings.

It would help if you cooperated according to your kid’s mood, making both of you feel happy and satisfied.

The only thing you know for sure is that you don’t know anything for sure.

Parenting gets hard when you don’t know how to be a parent.

But it’s not a big deal. All you have to do is take assistance from an experienced person who will guide you through all types of issues and solutions.

Your income relies solely on the whims of small humans.

As a parent, your salary will depend on your kid’s wishes and needs.

Your kid has a right to your salary, and you must complete their wishes.

You’re constantly comparing yourself to other parents.

Parenting becomes hard once you start the comparison between yourself and somebody else.

Comparison puzzles up a mind you forget what you were going to do. 

You have your personality and kid. You can’t copy someone else because of their different point of view and nature.

There needs to be more time in the day to do everything that needs to be done.

Parenting can be hard when your daily routine changes and you need more time to perform your favorite task. 

But remind yourself this time will not last permanently. Once your child becomes a little more mature, you can freely hang out.

There will be no stress on your shoulder. You will be much free.

Everyone has an opinion about how you should parent.

Yes, everyone has their own opinion according to their point of view and likes.

Everyone is in search of a way that comforts them and their kid. When kids are different, their parents are different, so how their opinion about parenting be the same?

Bedtime feels more like a prison sentence than a happy time with your kid(s).

Parenting gets hard during bedtime when parents are tired and want to close their eyes, but their kid wants to play.

In that case, you have to manage your kid’s bedtime with you don’t sleep them before you. So that they will let you sleep; otherwise, they will set the alarm for crying.

Even though they’re little, your kids can still make you feel extremely shitty about yourself. 

Parenting can be hard when your kid starts feeling unfortunate, unpleasant, contemptible, or inferior without saying a word.

Your house has become a mess again, and you have no idea how to clean it up.

Parenting gets hard when your kid starts crawling and walking because they touch each and everything.

On their home tour, they mess up at home because they don’t know to keep their toy back in place.

Take a breath and start cleaning until your kid gets mature enough to keep things back in place.

Expert View

Does every parent say a sentence about why parenting is so hard? When they fail to do it properly, especially when new couples have a baby and have no experience and knowledge for the growth and development of a newborn child.

They need clarification about what, when, and how to feed them. 

• When should they shower them? 
• When to pamper? 
• When to take them outside? 

But once they try to do it with love and care, they start understanding what they should do and when they should do it. They get used to this when their baby starts crying. They get to understand what they need.

New parents can get tips, support, and advice from their parents or experienced person.

Don’t stress out parenting will get easier for you once your child starts understanding things and reaches 5-6 years old. 

The 6-year child is mature enough to protect themselves and pick up the right things. Even at this age, parents let them go outside alone.